The Divorce Effect!!

This is not what she asked for. This is not what she was destined for.  This is not what she was expecting from her life. 

Whether she’s a determined successful girl of western society or a simple girl from east, there comes a time in life when every girl dreams about getting married. Sooner or later in their lives, they fancy about meeting their perfect life partner and spending a PERFECT life with them.

And then, the most awaited day comes with lots of awaiting dreams and prayers to be heard. Everything seems as PERFECT as she wished for. Days start passing quickly and then, all of a sudden, even before she knows, she finds herself all alone. She finds herself in a situation she never thought about even in her worst nightmare and gradually, she starts to accept the harsh truth of her life - she has been divorced!

Divorce - The word itself is enough to shake a person's heart then imagine how difficult it would be for those women to accept the fact that the person she loved with all her heart, for whom she left her home and her family, has left her. How ruthless that person would be. I am not saying that all divorces and separations take place just because of men. No, in some cases, women are also as guilty as men. But I would like to highlight those innocent women who have to suffer from this lifetime punishment. Unfortunately, these women are in majority. The reasons of divorce could be anything for example adultery, bad behavior, desertion, mental instability or mental illness, differences in perceptions, temperaments, educations, background etc of either partner. Even if not divorced, women have to suffer from the domestic violence like physical, sexual and mental abuse, intimidation, stalking and humiliation by husband. The list does not stop here; she is also constantly tortured by her in laws. She is not allowed to visit her parents; she is bound to stay at home and ought to do all the house chores forcefully all by herself. Still these women silently tolerate this torment, just for the sake of either saving their marital life or for their children. 

Unfortunately, children are the ones most affected by divorce, in fact, more than their parents. One of many reasons is that they need both their mother and father equally in their lives. They love them a lot and are scared to lose any of them and thus, after separation they have to live with only one of them. They suffer mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically because of the separation of their parents. This causes the inferiority complexes in them especially when they see other children happy with their family. 

In many cases the husband’s family keeps the children. As they know that a mother's weakness is her children hence, she’s not allowed to meet them. Most husbands, with or without the custody of his children, remarry other women. No matter how hard she tries, a step mother can never give the love of a real mother to those children. On the other hand, it rarely happens that divorced women get married again and are accepted by her in laws. 

What is the future of these women and their children? The debate on this topic can take days and even a book can be written on its causes, reasons and results, but the question remains the same. Why does it have to happen? Sometimes it is a good decision but most of the time it's not. Why to take such stand and destroy so many lives when it could be resolved by mutual agreement? There are many campaigns going on for this cause, which is a good thing. Majority of them are in favor of women rights. It has now become a story of every second family and unfortunately it is increasing day by day. 

It’s very easy to say and write on this issue but how far are they implemented in our society is the point of concern. I really hope that one day people will understand the true meaning of this pure and spiritual relationship and would respect their partners as much as they can. Because to make a make relationship work, compromises are required from the both sides.